Condolence: It's been almost 3 years since you passed away.... I have so many regrets. I will forever be burdened by the last few months of your life, I wanted so bad to be there for you and I now see why it was such a challenge to get to stand beside you. You have only 1 daughter, and after not only finding out a week after you had passed away there was no mention at all of your only child or your 2 grandchildren in the obituary but someone felt the need to mention friends etc. Maybe I am being petty, but this is the first I was even able to see the obituary as I live out of town. I was working 6days/12hr shifts/week and "the wife" didn't bother calling about my dad passing until the 17th of July.... 5 days after the fact! What a terrible feeling knowing he was gone 5 days before hearing it, and when she did finally call she didn't call me, she called my ex and I had to hear it from him in the parking lot at work. I still don't know exactly what happened and how, obviously she don't feel I should know something of this magnitude! As we grow up we make mistakes, but my biggest mistake is allowing your girlfriend (NOT WIFE) to make all the decisions leading up to you passing away. She made the wrong decision not allowing the doctor to do the surgery (which could have given you more time to get to know your daughter and 2 beautiful grandchildren) that could have saved you. I was not ready to let you go.... I just got you in my life and you left far too soon! I miss you dearly and wish you were here to see how much your oldest granddaughter has grown up to be a beautiful young woman, see her get married to a wonderful young man. And to see how much your youngest granddaughter looks like you.... she has a lot of your features! She is so beautiful inside and out! I have only 2 pictures of you to remember you by and now I have 3 because of this photo that was placed in the obituary for you that I am just now seeing for the first time... (the only good thing that woman did for you). I am saddened that the person who was not in your best interest was able to stand by you and I wasn't able to be there. I got 1 opportunity to get up to see you but that woman was nowhere to be found when I tried finding out what hospital you were in.... I rented a car to go see you and wasn't able to say goodbye. I will never forgive her for that! I know you see now how toxic she was to contributing to the excruciating last yrs of your life! If I knew then what I know now I would have insisted you moving in with me... I would have taken such good care of you and maybe you would still be here. I love you with all my heart and miss you even more, I could really use my daddy right now! I will continue to miss you until we meet again.
Love forever and always
Your daughter
Tanya Higgins (Minogue)